How to Build Self Confidence in Children

by: Paul Hata

It has often been said that what your child does at thirteen very much decides what he will be doing at thirty. And this does hold some truth! If a child learns to hold his head high no matter what comes, he will most certainly sow seeds of happiness, success and prosperity that he can reap when he becomes an adult. It is the duty of every parent to create an atmosphere where their child can learn to be self-confident, responsible and courageous. As parents, you have the duty to believe in his capability, encourage him to take initiative and you will be positively amazed at what he can do!

Be Self-Confident As A Parent
Children learn through imitation. As a child spends most of his time with his parents, he grow up becoming like them. Hence a self-confident parent unconsciously instills the self-confident nature as a life skill in the child. A child is a great observer and thus it has been said that a child is the father of man! Observation forms the first half of learning while doing forms the second half. So if he observes you idling, not completing your tasks on time, getting confused at the last hour and the resulting fights and bouts of your temper, he might never know the right way to handle situations. He will also most likely be struggling with ill habits like procrastination, laziness and indiscipline.

Give Time For Your Children
Spending time with your children is something that can never be over-emphasized. As working parents, it is often very tempting to place your child in a daycare so that you can have ample time for other chores. Many a time, we conjure up excuses of having to earn a living, providing the best for our child so on so forth to justify our actions. However, what the child needs most of all is you and your time. His treasures are the games you play with him. The long walks you share with him, the time you spent in tutoring him and the way you tell him what he means to you. This imbues a sense of security in the child that makes him automatically confident. He knows that he has nothing to worry about. Once your child gets strong and self-confident, he will not need your money, as he will have the aptitude and strength to go out and earn for himself. As the old proverb goes, give a fish to a man and you take care of him for one day. Teach a man how to fish and you take care of him for a lifetime. That is how it must be!

Be A Loveable Family
The best thing a father can do for his child is to love his mother. Nothing else works better. Should there be problems between you and your spouse, children are the ones who suffer the most. These little souls are very sensitive and watching parents yelling at each other cuts deeply into his heart and can create long lasting scars in them. A baby is the most amazing gift that nature can present to you - he is your flesh and blood. It is a great responsibility to take care of him. Love is the most basic essential ingredient of a home. For where there is love, happiness and prosperity is not far away.

Have Trust In Your Children
It is natural for parents to be concerned about the safety and security of your child. However, do make it a point that you do not overprotect him. It is not possible for you to be with him everywhere and he has a responsibility to make his mark in this world by himself. Faith is the best encouragement. Being trusted can at times be a greater compliment than being loved.

Entrust your child with small tasks. Nothing is as grand for a child than being given the responsibility to handle a task. He feels honored and his self-worth increases. Begin by guiding him to complete the task successfully and soon he will have his own unique way of handling things. Nature has given him wings of imagination so do not clip them. Encourage him and let him fly!

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